We determine the outcome of our individual daily situations. 

Remember the last time we were in an argument with someone...

What were the behaviors: shouting, yelling, or listening and engaging respectfully?

What were the outcomes: Anger and frustration or love and acceptance?

 

Learning to control our anger, frustration, and anxieties will help shape our future and put us on the path that will lead us to cognitive awareness and favorable outcomes.

 

Here are 4 ways to start controlling our emotions right now.

 

1) Learn how to breathe. We breathe naturally in everyday life but understanding how oxygen helps our body will help us become more cognitively aware and relax. Learning to use the breath to calm down when we are upset will help us get to a positive brain state. 

 

2) Smile, even when we don’t want to. Our brain releases neurotransmitters that aid in our happiness when we smile. Smiling, over time, has been shown to change the paths of our neurotransmitters and help us become healthier and happier despite our circumstances. 

 

3) Get refreshing sleep. Right before bed, try to limit screen time, attempt not to eat too much, and/or consume excessive alcohol. Instead, try guided yoga or meditation

 

4) Drink water more than any other substance. When we water organisms, they grow (i.e., plants, animals). We are a living organism; therefore, we need water. It may be hard to take in an appropriate amount of water first, but over time, we can start to learn how much our body needs to feel good, and water will become a reward.

 

Just start...that’s all that matters.

Growth comes with effort. 

Giving parents the tools to modify unwanted behaviors 

What is the most beautiful thing in the world? 

 

There’s one thing that happens to each of us daily and will continue happening every moment of our lives...experiences. No matter what life throws in front of us, technically, it’s an experience. Our experiences shape who we were, who we are, and who we will become. 

As far as we know, no two humans experience interactions in the same way.

 

Have you ever thought about this? Two people having a conversation are saying different words, listening to different words, standing in different places in space, and experiencing the interaction in our own way created by our individual brain. This is the most beautiful thing globally because whether our thoughts are just a summation of our experiences or thoughts and experiences have a symbiotic relationship, our experiences appear to be the only thing that we have.

 

Future post: How to Shape Our Everyday Experiences.